Sound familiar?
This
is one of those lines of thought that I think so many people have when
trying to lose weight or change eating and exercise habits.
No matter what I do, it's never good enough.
The
first question to ask yourself is "Good enough for whom?" Who are you
trying to please? Who gets the ultimate say on whether or not you are
good enough?
If
your answer is "them, the world, the universe" then you are right.
There is nothing you can do that will ever please everyone. There, that
burden is lifted from your shoulders! You will never please them all.
But don't give up on your dreams, just give up on trying to please
everyone else and focus on you. It's incredibly freeing. Try it.
The only person you really have to be good enough
for is yourself. So if your standards you have set for yourself are
impossible to meet because you require perfection of yourself at all
times, the only reasonable solution is to lower your standards. Stop
expecting to be perfect, stop thinking you already know everything, and
open your mind to learning and moving forward through an ever changing
process.
I
remember one particular moment when I was laying in bed after a long day of working out, taking care of my kids and doing my wifely duties that I just broke down into tears. I just thought to myself, my body is never going to change! I am never going to get that BODY that I so desperately want. My husband just looked at me like I was crazy and said, "I don't care about your body or what you look like, I love you no matter what!" But as amazing as that compliment was I just didn't believe him! How could anyone love me when I looked this way! Especially when I remember how awesome my body was when we first started dating and got married. I just had to keep pushing, I just had to do more! I was in the zone!!! Even though I had my doubts I just wasn't giving up.
There were definitely times that I thought to myself, "No matter what I do it will never be good enough so I may as well give up."
Because in my mind I was trying! I was eating clean and I was exercising! I was doing the same things I had been doing for months. Yet it wasn't working anymore the same way it had been.
Ah, silly me. If only I had known then what I know now I would have known that I answered my own question.
Obviously,
I did not give up. I had the temper tantrum, cried, and the next day I
adjusted my calorie intake and got in the zone and really hammered out my workouts and I eventually met all of my goals, so we see that clearly it was
good enough after all.
I
learned a few important lessons. First, doing what you've been doing
doesn't work forever because your body adapts. I had become fitter so I
needed to push myself harder. I had become thinner so I needed to
adjust my caloric intake. Doing what you've always done really isn't
good enough. You have to accept that you much continually evolve to
keep making progress.
I
also learned to listen to my husband about things like this because
he really was very rational about the whole thing in ways it took me
many months to master. There is a lot of emotion tied up in excess
weight and I think that emotion comes out when you lose it.
Either that or eating less calories than you burn causes temper tantrums.
Good enough is not perfect. In fact, there's no such thing as perfect. There's only a little better than before.
So its dedication and hard work and not giving up that brings you the results!
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